Welcome to part three of my six part series where each week we will talk about the upside of what are generally referred to as negative emotions. These are emotions that are uncomfortable, that we attempt to deny and avoid at all costs. Yet as humans we cannot live in a state of constant bliss. And believe it or not, these negative emotions, in moderation, can actually be positive, they serve a purpose and have a function. So we are going to explore these various emotions rather than run and hide under the covers.

We have already talked about sadness and anger, now we are going to talk about jealousy. Jealousy is an emotional response trigger by insecurity or fears of loss, particularly towards something of great personal value.

Jealousy can fuel success. When we see our younger, less experienced colleague land a big account, of course we want to feel happy for that co-worker, yet a bit of jealousy can motivate us to work harder to land a big account as well.

Jealousy helps us identify our insecurities. When we feel jealous of the achievements of our co-workers, family, or friends, it should serve as an emotional wake-up call to step back and evaluate what is being triggered within us. Why are we jealous? Where do we feel lacking? Jealousy can helps us to recognize where within ourselves we need to build confidence and emotional security.

Jealousy helps us recognize what is important in our lives and what we value. Feel a little jealous of that other female eyeing your boyfriend…that just illuminates how much you value your relationship. Just remember to recognize what insecurities are being triggered.

“Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure.” Maya Angelou