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Change: Why It Can Be So Hard

For everyone, there are things we would like to do more of, or do less of, or do differently. Whether it is eating healthy, or stopping smoking, or being more patient, or ending your marriage, or changing careers. Professionals working with clients on any type of change realize that change is a marathon and not a [...]

By | August 2nd, 2016|0 Comments

The Target Phenomenon: How Psychology Affects Our Finances

    You know the “Target phenomenon” that is when you go into Target intending to purchase 3 items and walk out with several bags full. One of the reasons that I love psychology is that how we think and feel impacts every area of life including how we spend money. If you are looking to [...]

By | April 5th, 2016|0 Comments

BIFF: No I Am Not Talking About Back To The Future (although that would be fun)

A few weeks ago, I talked about why people are drawn to "narcissistic" personalities. That same week I also happened to spend two days training for Parent Coordination, which is basically an intervention for high conflict divorced parents, who seem incapable of co-parenting. (Trust me, do everything you can to avoid this.) Two days of delving [...]

By | March 22nd, 2016|0 Comments

Valentine’s Day Is Approaching, Let’s Talk About A Different, More Important V Word…Vulnerability

In Brene Brown’s book Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead, she describes vulnerability as “uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure.” How often do you find yourself having a conversation on a superficial level? How often do you expose only your “happy” self to the world? How [...]

By | February 9th, 2016|0 Comments

A New Year, A New You: Viewing Therapy From A Public Health Model

What comes to mind when you think of therapy? Is it lying on a couch week after week exploring your childhood? Do you think of disorders and mental health diagnoses? We can look towards the traditional “pathology model” for these stereotypes. Historically therapy has been driven by the “medical model,” that of evaluating and diagnosing pathology. [...]

By | January 5th, 2016|0 Comments

Beating The Holiday Blues

Holidays are often thought of as a time of joy. Yet for many, the holidays are a time of stress and sadness. Some examples include: It being the first holidays after the death of a loved one with whom we typically celebrated the holidays. In a family of separation or divorce, when the children spend the [...]

By | November 24th, 2015|0 Comments

Dealing With Emotional Triggers

The work that I do is often contentious and filled with emotional triggers, whether in couples therapy, family therapy, divorce mediation, or a collaborative divorce. My clients are often at their worst point emotionally and struggle to manage these intense feelings. Time and time again, I see people being emotionally triggered and lashing out defensively. While [...]

By | November 17th, 2015|0 Comments